HOW DO YOU BECOME WHOLE AGAIN
AFTER A TRAGIC BREAK-UP?
By Rissa Singson Kawpeng
National Bestselling Author of Confessions of an Impatient Bride
If you think you can’t get past that break up, then you have to think again.
I started dating at the age of 33.
I was brokenhearted at the age of 35.
I got married at the age of 38.
At the age when many of my classmates were already sending their kids to high school, I had my first-ever boyfriend. It was a heady and romantic time but the relationship started to zoom downhill before we could even celebrate our first year anniversary.
But then came along what I call the “man beyond my dreams.” He was everything I had been asking the Lord for — and so much more!
But just when we were beginning to browse through wedding magazines and talking about where our fancy reception will be, a small, meaningless fight triggered a disastrous breakup. My heart detonated into a thousand and one pieces.
I couldn’t get back on my feet. Literally.
For days, I buried myself in bed, unable to get up and face a new day.
For months, my long face dragged on the floor behind me wherever I went, afraid of what the future held in store for me.
Celibate for the rest of my life.
I wanted to scream to heaven, “But I want to get married, Lord!”
Still, the facts were staring me straight to the face.
At 35, what were my chances? Besides where would I find eligible men? By this time, the crop of men in my age range would either be “leftovers” — you know, the ones you wouldn’t want to marry anyway — or gays.
Sigh. I surrendered myself to serving the Lord through a life of single blessedness.
When my ex and I broke up, I fell into depression.
I didn’t want to get out of my bed.
I didn’t want to talk to people.
I just wanted to lock myself in my room and marinate in my misery.
I didn’t want to try anymore.
I totally, completely surrendered myself to Jesus.
But on Valentine’s Day in 2005, just when terrorists were bombing some buses on EDSA in Makati, a different kind of explosion was happening in Pasig. I was on a first date with a good-looking, never-been-married, gem-of-a-straight guy who would meet me down the aisle of Santuario de San Jose church two and a half years later.
But wait, I’m getting ahead of my story.
How was I able to go from brokenhearted to wholehearted?
How do you actually move on after your heart has been broken into a thousand pieces?
It’s hard. It really is.
But it’s possible.
Are you broken-hearted right now?
Are you totally devastated because your heart was broken by the man whom you thought was The One?
Your pain is valid.
Your pain matters.
Your pain has a purpose.
But it’s hard to see that purpose when right now all you want to do is to buy a gallon of ice cream and binge-watch KDramas or RomComs on Netflix.
You have to give yourself the time to grieve.
But you also have to give yourself the chance to heal.
A lot of my women always come up to me with their own successful stories about finding their One True Love.
But a lot of them also come up to me with stories of heartache and heartbreak.
This is why this year, instead of running my annual Bridal Shower workshop, I want to focus on healing. On mending. On becoming whole again.
Let me help you.
I’m inviting you to join me in
This workshop is different from all the other workshops I’ve run before.
Instead of teaching you how to find The One, I’ll teach you first how to heal, so you can become The One.
As an exclusive member of The OTL Wholehearted Program, we’ll throw you a load of resources for the next six months that will help you move on from your heartbreak.
Every month you’ll join me for an exclusive gathering together with a select group of people who will join you as you journey into becoming whole again.
These are the amazing perks you’ll receive in our weekly meetings as an OTL Wholehearted member:
- Five weekly “live” morning gatherings where we meet face-to-face in Pasig area to learn about how to uncover the purpose of your pain, learn the path to healing, learning to be the one, and many more.
- September 29, 2018
- Oct 13, 2018
- Oct 27, 2018
- Nov 10, 2018
- Dec 1, 2018
- In these meetings, we will journey together from uncovering the purpose of your pain from a tragic ending to finally taking charge of creating a happy beginning.
- You’ll be inspired by the sharings and stories of other OTL Wholehearted members who are in the same boat you’re in.
- You’ll have a group who will hold you accountable to doing your homeworks.
- You’ll have a network of new people who can introduce you to their friends and friends of friends, when you’re ready. Who knows, you may find your One True Love through one of them?
- You can have one-on-one sessions where you can ask me your most intimate and secret concerns.
- You’ll also learn from counseling and relationship experts who can give you mind-blowing advice based on years of study, research and experience on how to boost your self-esteem, how to know yourself better and turn all this awareness into powerful tools that can prepare you for an over-the-top relationship with your One True Love. They’ll demolish romantic myths that lead people to bad choices when it comes to their relationships. What’s more, they’ll equip you with practical life skills that will come in handy in making your marriage a happy one.
"The seminar allowed me to understand and explore the feelings that lie deep within depression.
With a heart opened and receptive to healing, the weekly meetings served as an avenue for me to realize that there is hope and that I am not alone in this struggle.
This program served as a jumpstart in my journey towards a better understanding of myself and others experiencing depression." - Jean, 32
Through my participation in the Wholehearted Program, I was able to identify why I am short-tempered and very sensitive to issues—even trivial ones. This realization enabled me to manage my actions and reactions rationally. I am now able to relate with people, E specially those close to me, with kindness, humility, and compassion without insisting on what in my opinion is right. I am now very mindful not to hurt the people I am supposed to love. — Alfonso, 66
I’m overwhelmed! God designed you to have good and godly friends... a shoulder to cry on and a “girl community”. This Wholehearted program is the best and easiest way on how to move on and know your self worth and it’s not the end of the world! Life is so beautiful and you are Beautiful! — Ces, 35
I’ve talked to girls about how they deal with break-ups.
A majority of them would immediately go to a salon for a make over. This costs about P2000 up to P10,000 (I’m not kidding!)
Some of them would impulsively enroll in gym memberships, which they don’t use because somewhere down the line they realize that they don’t actually want to be fit and healthy; they initially just want to have that ideal ‘revenge body’. This costs about P3000-P5000/month.
Some girls would go for a total style overhaul. A new wardrobe that would compliment that “new you” would cost about P2000-P5000 or even more.
Look. I’m not saying that doing all these things are wrong, or bad for you. In fact, if they actually help you move on from your break up, then go ahead!
But how many of you are doing these things as a way to make yourself happy and heal your heart, and how many of you are merely doing these things to cover up a huge hole in your broken heart?
I was just thinking how blessed you are as an OTL member. Because instead of paying lots of money on stuff you think would help you move on, you’re investing it into a program that would help you heal, introduce you to new friends, and help you write a better love story in the future.
In the OTL Wholehearted, your membership fee is P20,000.00 for the entire course.
That’s P4,000.00 per session.
BUT WE REALLY, REALLY, REALLY WANT YOU TO BE HERE. So here’s the good news: If you sign up before September, you can pay in three easy installments of P6,750.00 per month (August, September, October)
Choose a one-time payment for only P16,000.00, which, I repeat, is absolutely NOTHING compared to the emotional, mental, spiritual pain you will go through if you do not take charge of your healing right now.
Once September comes in, then the price would return to P20,000.00.
This comes with a 100% Guarantee. After our first session, if you think this coaching program is not worth your time or money, just tell us, and we’ll return every centavo of your OTL Wholehearted membership fee, no questions asked, no hard feelings. We want to completely help you in anyway we can. If you didn’t feel helped, then that’s our fault, and we don’t deserve your fees. I will insist that you get it back.
If this excites you, then don’t delay. You need to sign up now because this unprecedented coaching program starts on September 29, 2018.
Don’t let this rare chance pass you by!
To sign up and change your future, click the link below…
Yes, Rissa. I want to be wholehearted again. Sign me up for the OTL Wholehearted program.
P.S. Be an OTL Wholehearted member today and take your healing one step further! There are VERY LIMITED SLOTS, so hurry now! To join this life-changing experience, click the link below:
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